In talking with my many single female friends, they often say that there are no quality guys around for them to date. I scoff at the idea of course, as there seem to be plenty of available men around, especially in a place like New York or San Francisco. Less so in SF perhaps, as I broke down the cities' single demographics to a friend recently, but certainly in a city of eight million like New York, there are tons of eligible bachelors roaming the streets right? Well, this recent Wall Street Journal article, "Where Have the Good Men Gone?" pretty much explains it succintly. Guys in their late twenties and early thirties are really adolescents and there's hardly anything relationship worthy about that -- regardless of where you live. I mean, if I were a woman trying to date seriously right now, there probably aren't a lot of options that don't fall into the "already taken, nice but boring, asshole clown, non-committal, lost in life, or simply unprepared" in the males of my age group. The sacrifice then is to date someone older or younger, with all the perceived and attached disadvantages of either in play.
I am concerned.
As one of my New Year's declarations, I decided to be more forthright with my opinions on other people's relationships. In practice it's not been very easy. I mean, who the hell wants to be the one to burst someone's bubble? And having seen a few budding relationships take off over the past few months, I'm reminded of how genuinely exciting a new romance can be -- even if it's not "right." I myself am prone to be swept up in the fun of it all, living vicariously through someone elses' shared holiday plans, or Valentine's Day outtings, and asking questions about the state of their union. Sometimes I wonder if it would be better for two people to just declare marriage to each other without really knowing each other. Knowing seems to be a little overrated. With time, mostly you just gain a bigger collection of undateable quirks and issues with the other person. Given the choice, it might be easier to just pick someone and wing it as you go.
That seems dangerous yet exciting.
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